We, mostly me, have decided not to reveal the gender of baby number two. We have told a select few people-mostly family.
It has been surprising to me the amount of people who ask what we are having. Luke likes to say “not a dinosaur”. When I say “we know but aren’t telling” I am met with either “good for you, what does it matter anyway” or I am met with weird looks that can only assume they think I’m from another planet.
I’ve also been met with strange comments. Comments that would have made me punch the wall during my first pregnancy but this time I’m a little less anxious and a lot more relaxed. This one took me aback though:
“hopefully it will be a girl so you don’t have to try for another one and you’ll have the perfect family”.
Okay, so I really wanted to get into a heated debate with this person but church was about to start. And honestly comments similar to the above have been said to me multiple times.
This brings up the question: Is there such a thing as a perfect family?
To me every family is perfect to that family. To you a perfect family could be no kids, one kid, two kids, or ten. You could be a single parent, a blended family, kids could be raised by family members, there could be adoptions or foster kids. All girls, all boys, or some of each. There are so many answers to the “perfect family” equation.
The common denominator is simply this: Love.
As long as love is present within the walls of a family there is perfection because God is love.
James 1:17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.
1 John 4:16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.
I consider our family perfect right now and it will be even more perfect once another bundle of happiness joins us…whatever that bundle may be. Our home will be filled with love regardless.