While in the midst of preparing dinner my child pushed and pulled on me demanding my attention. He does this every time I try to do something of importance. I could have yelled at him. In fact, a few months ago I probably would have yelled and lost my cool. Today I chose to act with love. I bent down to his level, hugged him and said “mama is trying to get dinner ready, if you give me about five minutes to finish I will play with you”. He looked at me, leaned in for a smooch, turned around and went to play. Honestly I was baffled-this never happens!
I’ve started following Creative Child Magazine on Facebook (go follow them right now-it’s a great page!). Several posts have said that we should be treating our children like the brand new human beings that they are instead of expecting them to act like adults. Kids are still learning. When we treat them with the respect that we demand for ourselves they tend to learn respect in return. This doesn’t mean that kids should get away with doing wrong but maybe use whatever they are doing wrong as a learning tool instead of screaming punishments at them.
I tend to yell or get angry because I’m trying to get something done. I don’t have a ton of patience and I am working on that. I am trying my best to apologize to my family for lashing out in the heat of the moment. I say that I am sorry when I’ve done something wrong. I believe that this will teach my child to do the same when he is wrong. Respecting your child isn’t letting them win but teaching them that even when they do something wrong the right thing to do is admit to apologize for their mistake.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
I’m a brand new parent. I am by no means an expert and I know that all kids, parents, and families are different…but maybe, just maybe…if we love, teach, give respect and offer grace to our children we will get those things in return.