I talk a lot about myself on this blog…after all it is my blog and about my life. Today I’d like to talk a little bit about compassion for others.
Have you ever had a friend who is suffering? A parent might have cancer, a friend is having trouble conceiving, a miscarriage, an incurable disease was diagnosed, someone is dealing with a mental illness, or maybe a loved one passed away. All of these things are very different yet they all can be debilitating.
Honestly, my first reaction is to close the door and slowly back away. I am not a touchy-freely person. I have learned through my experiences that not everyone needs a hug though. Sometimes a person needs a listener, a supporter, someone to be on their team.
It’s okay to not understand what to do in certain situations. It’s okay to freak out a little. Take your time to think and pray about what needs to be said or done.
Words aren’t always necessary, a friend might just need someone to sit in silence with them while they process things. Going with a friend to a scary doctors appointment might be the best support that you can offer. Sending a note of encouragement or a text letting someone know you are thinking and praying for them can do wonders to lift spirits.
In my opinion the worst thing you can do is tell someone you’ve been there or you’ve had it worse. Everyone experiences and handles things differently. Even if you went through exactly the same thing, you processed it differently than your friend. God made us all different. That is the beauty of life.
If you truly don’t know how to handle a loved ones suffering then please just pray with them. That act alone can be more meaningful than anything.
Colossians 3:12 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.
Matthew 25:40 And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’
Romans 5:3-4 Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope,