As a mom self care is super important. This is one aspect of my life that gets neglected far too often.
I try to set aside time each day to be by myself and do something just for me but it doesn’t always happen since everyone around me works and can’t always take the little man off my hands for a bit. My self care routine may look like 15 minutes or 2 hours. But the important thing is that it happens.
Self care probably looks different to everyone. While one person may see it as a day at the spa another person might see it as cleaning a messy room or reading a book or even catching up on a tv show. Sometimes I’ll take a 30 minute break away from little man to lay on the couch and do absolutely nothing. Sure, there’s stuff to do around the house but it can wait. I also love to take a long, hot, uninterrupted shower. If I can do that it’s almost like hitting a reset button on life.
I recently completed counseling and my therapist suggested that I make time once a week to get away by myself. This was so hard for me at first. I have an awful time asking for help. However, I have some very loving and willing friends who are able to watch little man for a few hours a week so that this mama can get a much needed break. Even if that break is to just run errands kid free. Hopefully next time I can do something a little more relaxing.
It’s also important to make time with your spouse. Because Luke works full time then comes home to farm it is very difficult for us to have some quality time together…being kid free is even more challenging. Sometimes I’m happy to just sit and watch a movie together. If you are able to set a time once a week, month or season then good for you! Do what you can to nurture your relationship.
Being a mom is definitely an amazing job but it is also difficult. Don’t let yourself get burned out. I cherish the time I spend with little man because he is growing so fast but I also cherish the minutes away from him to just breathe and recuperate.
Don’t forget to make time for your most important relationship, your relationship with Jesus. There are so many times when I’ve carried a heavy burden by myself when all I’ve needed to do was give it to Jesus and rest. Make a daily devotional and prayer part of your self care routine, you won’t be sorry. I personally love the First 5 app on my phone. It’s simple to read and understand in the brief, quiet moments of my day.
Find rest, oh my soul, in God alone. Psalm 62:5
“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41-42 NIV